Saturday, 30 December 2017

How to Make 2018 Your (My) Best Year Ever #SaturdayShareLinkUp

How to Make 2018 Your (My) Best Year Ever | Realistic New Year's Resolutions and Goals

So this is it, my last blog post of 2017. It's been a crazy year all in all, and I've learnt so much in just 12 short months. 

Although I don't "do" New Year's Resolutions per se, I thought I'd list a few realistic resolutions - or should I say goals - that could make 2018 your (and my) best year ever. It's all a case of learning from your mistakes and successes, and oh BOY did I make some mistakes this year! My biggest mistake was taking on far too much work - much more than one person could possibly handle - so that's my number one priority this year.

I have to learn to say no more often, especially when it comes to job offers. Being freelance gives you that sense of worry, the constant Where is my next pay cheque going to come from feeling. It's a feeling that's hard to shake off when you've been in a situation where several people have disappeared off the face of the earth with your hard-earned money. I'm so glad I managed to turn things around in just over a year without having to give up the blog (but it came close!) - in the next year I need to organise my time much better and get my work-life balance right.

These goals can apply to anyone and everyone - I've used examples from my own life but I'm sure most people can recognise how these goals apply to them.
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Thursday, 28 December 2017

New for SS18 | 6 Winter to Spring Transitional Outfits

Winter to spring transitional outfits | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style
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This is my penultimate post of 2017, and what better way to start rounding off this year than with a look towards Spring 2018?

Now don't worry, I haven't gone all boho and florals on you - far from it. All of these outfits are more than suitable for winter AND spring: just add or take away layers and swap shoes depending on what season you're dressing for. I've written this post in partnership with JD Williams as part of my Colour Council involvement which has been absolutely fantastic to work on this year. Their recent rebrand has been really inspiring as they are celebrating the 40+ woman in the MOST positive way and I'm so glad to have been part of it.

So onto the outfits - I've styled six outfits with pieces that are all "New In" (very VERY new in) as either winter or spring looks, but all work for that tricky transitional season time when you just don't know what the weather's doing. With a layering or footwear tweak here or there they'll work in cold weather or milder weather... I am SO excited about some (many!) of these pieces.
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Tuesday, 26 December 2017

Christmas Day Outfit: Red Lace Midi Dress (Perfect for Curves!) #iwillwearwhatilike

Christmas party or New Year's Eve party outfit - red lace midi dress with red pea coat and red heels | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style

Happy Boxing Day - are you sick of the sight of turkey, the Quality Street tin and mince pies yet...? If not, you've obviously had a far-too restrained Christmas which just isn't allowed! ;)

I'm writing this post in advance of Christmas Day in order to save myself time in terms of a photo shoot on the big day (always hard when it gets dark so incredibly early) as well as then editing and writing the post come Boxing Day. Hopefully I will have taken a very quick shot or two on the day and included them somewhere - this outfit was shot a while ago but it's what I'm intending to wear on Christmas Day...

That's only IF I haven't eaten too many stollen bites and can actually get INTO the dress at all - right now I'm not holding out that much hope, lol!

(Regular visitors to the #iwillwearwhatilike linkup may have noticed that today is Tuesday and the link up usually goes out on a Monday - I'm sure you'll let me have this one because who reads blogs on Christmas Day, amirite?)
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Friday, 22 December 2017

Wishing You a Happy Christmas! A Thank You to All My Readers #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Merry Christmas from Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style blog

A little earlier today as this is my last post before Christmas - wishing you all much love and happiness for the festive break!

The image you see here is one Keith and I used on or Christmas card several years ago. Pre 2011, before I started the blog (oh, what carefree days), I had what is known as "free time" and I used to design and make ALL my own Christmas and birthday cards. Unfortunately the blog has meant that I barely have the time to write them anymore, never mind make them. But I'm not complaining - the blog has brought much greater opportunities than my original plan of having a handmade greetings cards empire ever would have...!

(By the way in case you're wondering: Yes, that IS us, both aged about 5. And no, we didn't have our photo taken together...)
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Wednesday, 20 December 2017

15 Unmissable Reads, The Best of the Blogosphere (December 2017)

15 Unmissable Reads, The Best of the Blogosphere (December 2017)

In my Best of the Blogosphere this month I have Christmas dressing galore, feeling sexy in your 40s, the illusion of perfection and all the inspirational (older) women you could hope to read about and lay your eyes on!

(In case you've not seen these posts before my Unmissable Reads are a monthly round-up of things I've seen, watched and liked in the blogosphere that I'm sure you'll love too.)

I'm posting this a week early this month due to Christmas, but I've still been able to find so many amazing reads for you. Do check out these great links - you never know who or what you might discover that makes your day/week/month!

WHAT LINKS DID YOU LIKE - AND HAVE YOU FOUND ANY FABULOUS NEW BLOGS TO FOLLOW? COMMENT BELOW, OR TWEET ME @NOTLAMB!

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Stephanie talks about feeling sexy in your 40s and beyond - her black lace lingerie is so classy and so sexy.

If you've never seen OK Go!'s INCREDIBLE music videos before, prepare for a complete and utter brain f**k (sorry but there's no other way to describe it)... they are the Supreme Kings of Creative Music Videos. Seriously, gird your loins.
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Monday, 18 December 2017

A Masculine Meets Feminine Blouse For Both the Office and Smart Casual Events #iwillwearwhatilike

A masculine/feminine floral blouse with contrasting cuffs and black neck tie \ with black peg leg tapered trousers pants \ Finery two tone suede and leopard ankle boots \ multi-coloured striped Mango shopper bag | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 fashion

In what will be the last #iwillwearwhatilike link up before Christmas, I thought I'd bring you something completely NON-Christmassy just for a change!

Advance warning for next week: As Christmas Day is a week today there won't be a link up (or post) next Monday - it'll be on Tuesday/Boxing Day instead. This is the first time EVER there won't be a #iwillwear link up on a Monday in two and a half years, which is pretty good going. Goes to show just how much you lot love seeing what women love wearing and love not giving two hoots about anyone else's opinion.

What's not to love?!
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Friday, 15 December 2017

If You Became a Celebrity Overnight, Would You Get a Stylist? #SaturdayShareLinkUp

If You Became a Celebrity Overnight, Would You Get a Stylist?

Q: Let's say you became a celebrity overnight (I'm talking a humdinger of an A-lister here) - the type that would be seen on red carpets everywhere - would you get yourself a stylist?

I can't even remember what thought train I was on this week for me to come up with this question in my head, but it's one of those random things I was pondering.

Now it's purely a question just for fun because there's very little chance that you can become an A-lister overnight. You can win the lottery, or go viral with something on YouTube, or make headlines for something you've done on some reality TV show you've made it onto, but 99 times out of 100 those are the 15 Minutes of Fame types. Most "overnight" A-list celebrities have been working for years to become an overnight sensation.

(Unless you precede your reality TV show with a sex tape and become famous for having no discernable talent whatsoever apart from "losing" your clothes a lot and documenting it every time it happens with selfies and having a mom who's happy to manage you while you do this. NO ONE can become super famous and make millions doing that, surely? I digress...)

Would YOU hire a stylist?

So just for fun, purely hypothetically speaking: Would you hire a stylist? After all, you're an A-list celeb and money is no object. I know you lot are a confident bunch (I won't say "stylish" because everyone's definition of stylish is different) so you may think No, I'm a grown up woman and am happy with what I wear, thank you very much - I don't need a stylist, famous or not!

Or you may think Well it might be fun to have someone who takes the pressure off what I wear to events and can advise me on what designers and brands that I may not be aware of.

Are you wondering which way I'd go?

BLAKE LIVELY FAMOUSLY DOESN'T HAVE A STYLIST. I SEEM TO REMEMBER READING THAT DIANE KRUGER DOESN'T EITHER. BOTH OF THESE WOMEN ARE ACHINGLY STYLISH.

Blake Lively famously doesn't have a stylist. I seem to remember reading that Diane Kruger doesn't either. Both of these women are achingly stylish, and I don't ever remember either of them being included in those heinous "What was she thinking?" articles in magazines.

[By the way I know someone will ask: The outfit I'm wearing in the photo above was my "fairy princess" look at the 2016 UK Blog Awards, one of the few big red carpet-style occasions where I styled myself. Thought I'd answer that question before I continue to ramble...]

The scrutiny of the media

From my point of view I think being under the scrutiny of the media is a TERRIFYING prospect. Plus now you have social media which is a forum for everyone in the whole world to have an opinion on what you're wearing, and not only that but they can tell you directly with tweets and =ahem= wonderful Instagram comments that talk about you in the third person.

(Why is it that so many comments on the feeds of celebrities do that? Why do people not realise that these accounts are, more often than not, a celeb's private Instagram account so they get to read all these vile comments that talk about them as if they will never read it?)

So bloggers and influencers do get it to a greater or lesser degree, depending on the size of their following, but as you know I'm a believer in #iwillwearwhatilike. Famous or not, I wouldn't wear anything that I didn't like, feel comfortable in or that just didn't look like me... I'd want to still look like ME.

What I'd do if I became an A-lister overnight...

That said, it may surprise you to know that I WOULD actually get a stylist, at least at first.

I quite like the idea of someone giving me advice not necessarily on WHAT to wear, but WHO to wear. (And I say advice... I'm thinking more "suggestions".) Although I'm no stranger to the collections of Gucci, Rodarte or Erdem, I'm certainly no expert on designers and everything that comes out every season. I'd love to have someone who can suggest designers to me that I may blissfully be unaware of, but I'd still effectively want to ultimately style myself.

So I'd have someone who was more of an advisor rather than a stylist. Help and advise me yes - actually style me... no.

However my Advisor-Stylist had better be good and had better listen to what I say or they'd be OUT faster than you can say I like my money where you can see it: hanging in my closet. (Actually that's not the fastest thing you can say, but it's my favourite SATC fashion quote so hey ho.)

I'd bet Carrie Bradshaw would do the same, no...?

IF YOU BECAME A BONA FIDE CELEBRITY OVERNIGHT, WOULD YOU GET YOURSELF A STYLIST? OR WOULD YOU STILL STYLE YOURSELF, CRITICS BE DAMNED?

TELL ME IN THE COMMENTS OR TWEET ME @NOTLAMB!


Just quickly, before the link up - a favour to ask! Could you spare about 30 seconds to vote for me in the UK Blog Awards please...?

Vote for Not Dressed As Lamb in the Fashion & Beauty category in the 2018 UK Blog Awards

I've decided to try for a fourth nomination in a row at the UK Blog Awards in 2018 - would you be good enough to vote for me please? Full details in my post about why I'm entering again here or go straight to the voting page (use every email address you have)! Thank you sooooooo much...!

So all that's left to say is - I've shared my thoughts/stories/tuppence-worth this week, now it's time to share yours... LET'S GET THIS [LINK UP] PARTY STARTED!

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Catherine

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Wednesday, 13 December 2017

21 Christmas Party Outfit Ideas (Worn By Regular Over 40 Women!)

21 Christmas Party Outfit Ideas (Worn By Regular Over 40 Women!)

In what will be my final Christmas party outfits post this year (maybe, don't hate me if it's not!), I thought I'd look to some regular over 40 women for inspiration on what to wear this festive season. 

So rather than you having to endure me wearing All The Party Outfits, you can feast your eyes on 21 party outfits as worn by my good friends from the Over40Collective instead. What's so great about featuring the members of the O40Co is that our styles are all so different, so there should be something to appeal to everyone in terms of style.

If you're not fond of all the colour and pattern that I wear so much, there are sophisticated looks based around the colour black. If you're a huge fan of sparkle and glitz, however, I've got you covered with all manner of sequins.
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Monday, 11 December 2017

Casual Festive Dressing: A Christmas Jumper Special #iwillwearwhatilike

AW17 Casual Christmas party outfit: Fluffy pink sequinned reindeer sweater, navy velvet trousers, knee high boots and navy baker boy hat | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style

After one or two dressed up Christmas party outfit posts, I'm bringing you the opposite end of the festive season dressing spectrum: The laid-back, casual party outfit. Something that's practical, warm and still Yuletide-appropriate.

This is one of those outfits that's all about the Christmas jumper - and oh my god how crazy have sales of Christmas jumpers got in the last few years? What used to be something that Bridget Jones mocked poor Mark Darcy for wearing has now become THE thing to wear at Christmas. Sure, there are many tasteful or elegant ones like my fabulously fluffy sequin reindeer sweater, but truth be told, Christmas jumpers are meant to be a little tacky (and isn't that what we love about them)?

Why has this happened? Did Mr. Darcy start it off as long ago as 2001? I guess we'll never know.
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Friday, 8 December 2017

I've Entered the UK Blog Awards Again - Please Vote For Me? #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Catherine Summers, Not Dressed As Lamb | UK Blog Awards 2017 Individual Fashion & Beauty Winner

Yes, it's that time of year once again when the UK Blog Awards nomination process rolls around and I ask my lovely readers for their support.

It only feels like 5 minutes since I last asked for votes (though I'm aware it was a whole year ago...), and it's even less time that I somehow managed to win on my third time being shortlisted. It STILL hasn't sunk in even now that I won, eight months later!

So after having a huge surprise also winning Most Addictive Blog at the Thirty Plus Awards only last week, I feel like I'm on a bit of a roll this year (somehow, I don't know how)! This is happening to someone who never, ever won anything or came top in anything at school or competitions. I was just never one of those people who would win things, but I'd always have a good go trying.
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Wednesday, 6 December 2017

Discount Shopping Heaven for Beauty Junkies: Dover to Calais by Ferry

Dover to Calais ferry trip, P&O Ferries | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 fashion & lifestyle
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At the beginning of last week I went on a little expedition and did something I haven't done since I was 17: j'ai voyagé en France en ferry (I travelled to France by ferry)!

The last time I crossed over the English Channel was with my parents on a holiday to Brittany in 1989 (I'm the youngest of four so it was their last holiday with one of their children before we were ALL grown up enough to go on our own holidays) and it did seem like a lifetime ago. So when I was contacted by P&O Ferries and offered the chance to visit Calais on a day trip via ferry from Dover I was curious as to what it'd be like as an adult. It's amazing how you take the organising of trips for granted as a kid (or even a young adult as I was then) because I remember NOTHING about having to be at a certain place at a certain time, remembering tickets, passports or anything...!

As Keith was unavailable (i.e. couldn't get time off work at this time of year) I asked my two lovely friends Lisa and Michelle if they wanted to come and spend the day with me, checking out what Calais had to offer and to see what the trip over would be like. Unfortunately Michelle got a chest infection at the eleventh hour (poor thing!) so it was up to Lisa and I to get the Christmas spirit kicked off with a day in the French port after catching the ferry from Dover.
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Monday, 4 December 2017

What to Wear to a Christmas Party (When You Don't Wear Dresses) #iwillwearwhatilike

Floral pyjama pajama-style suit, Christmas party outfit: Trouser/pants suit with red heels, pink velvet top and gold mirror clutch | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 fashion

It's safe to say we're fully into Christmas party season and it's that time when those of us who haven't sorted out what we're wearing yet get into a bit of a panic. "What to wear to a Christmas party" posts are everywhere, but so many of them just include dresses.

If you're NOT the kind of gal who wear dresses much - or simply just prefers to be in trousers - then the co-ords set is your new best friend. There are lots of beautiful co-ords in the shops at the moment (I've featured my favourites further down the post) and decided to style this floral blazer and trousers suit from JD Williams to prove that party dressing doesn't HAVE to mean a dress!
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Friday, 1 December 2017

The Thirty Plus Awards: Winning 'Most Addictive Blog'! #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Not Dressed As Lamb - The Thirty Plus Awards November 2017

What a week I've had... I can't believe it's December already as I've been working non-stop and have barely had time to breathe: Now the week has finished with me unexpectedly winning an award - it's crazy (and of course wonderful)!

The Thirty Plus Awards are now in their second year (I was very honoured to be a judge last year) and several weeks ago someone very kindly nominated me for the Most Addictive Blog Award. That in itself is very humbling, but to be shortlisted by the panel of judges and THEN go on to win (when you're not expecting to win in any way shape or form) is absolutely amazing! I popped up to London yesterday to attend the awards even though I knew(!) I wouldn't win - I wanted to see friends, have a few drinks and celebrate all the amazing ladies doing amazing things in the blogosphere.

But then I won the award in my category...!!
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Wednesday, 29 November 2017

My Favourite Past Winter Outfits (With AW17 Shopping Links)

Autumn outfits, winter outfits, cold weather style, AW17 picks | Not Dressed As Lamb

It's properly winter here in the UK now - we have beautiful sunshine but it's truly FREEZING today. I went for an early morning walk at sunrise and I had to be careful not to slip on the icy pavements and roads.

So here we go then: Winter. I consider it autumn until the last day of November, then I'll embrace the coldest, darkest season when December rolls around (and only then). I haven't actually got ALL my winter clothes out of storage yet, so I need to hurry up and get everything out... I keep remembering I have lots of other colour scarves and gloves I could be wearing - at the moment I'm pretty much wearing just one of each (that I left out from last winter) every day!

Today's post is my regular quarterly post for each season where I pick the best of the outfits from previous years and find you some current shopping picks so you can recreate the outfit entirely, or just shop for one similar item and then style it your own way.
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Monday, 27 November 2017

A Vintage-Style Floral Tapestry Coat #iwillwearwhatilike

Autumn dressing, fall outfits, winter florals: Floral tapestry coat with fur collar, wide leg camel trousers, grey ankle boots | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 fashion

Have you ever had your eye on a piece of clothing or an accessory for years (something that was maybe designer and you couldn't afford it, or a one-off piece a friend owned) and it never left your mind because you loved it so much?

Something like that happened with this vintage-style floral tapestry coat I was kindly gifted by JD Williams. It's a very similar type of coat to the vintage tapestry coat I was lent for London Fashion Week several few years ago: the colours are nearly identical, and although that one had a geometric pattern and this one is floral it sort of looked the same to me as I'd remembered it in my head.

Though now I've looked back at the pictures of the first coat they're not actually all that similar, but still - I love this new one! It's surprisingly lightweight (quite a blessing for a coat like this, they're usually as heavy as anything), the colours are gorgeous, and then there's that fur collar. Which is detachable, making the coat soooo much more versatile. I foresee it with different colour scarves or covered in brooches around the neckline.
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Sunday, 26 November 2017

The Ultimate Seasalt Christmas Gift Guide | £200 Giveaway

The Ultimate Seasalt Christmas Gift Guide | £200 Giveaway
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I've had a wonderful year of working with Seasalt, and to celebrate I'm offering one lucky person the chance to win £200 to spend at the Cornish clothes and accessories brand!

I don't do giveaways very often so when I do it has to be for something special. For this post I've written an ultimate Seasalt Christmas gift guide - their products are exclusive and very different to anything you see anywhere else so you're guaranteed to get special gifts for special people.

All their prints are designed in-house, many products are made with 100% organic cotton and they make the best, most waterproof raincoats you can buy. All wrapped up in plenty of sailor stripes and cosy homewares - I've been a fan for a long time so it made perfect sense for me to tell you all about them during 2017.
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Friday, 24 November 2017

Now Women Are Criticising Other Women For Changing Their Style #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Now Women Are Criticising Other Women For Changing Their Style - A classy wedding guest outfit and tomboy style dungarees and t-shirt

Here are my favourite Black Friday deals, everyone! Er, actually no... this is a totally Black Friday-free zone. Keep reading if you'd like to hear about something OTHER than how much money I could save you right now. Or maybe I'll 'save' you from all the discount emails that are clogging up your Inbox instead...?!!

Just kidding - but really, there are only so many discount codes or sales I could take advantage of in one day. Here's some light relief:

Women are now criticising other women for... changing their style.

Yes, this has come to my attention this week. Okay, so it may be just one woman criticising one other woman for "changing her style", but still, I'll bet she's not alone. And in the grand scheme of things, as I've said so many times before, all it boils down to is, WHY are women so worried about what others wear? Anyway, to give this perhaps-it's-a-one-off-but-I'll-bet-you-anything-it's-not scenario some context:
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Thursday, 23 November 2017

How to Improve Your Heart Health Via Your Omega-3 Index

How to Improve Your Heart Health Via Your Omega-3 Index - ways to improve your diet, how to get more omega-3, oily fish | Not Dressed As Lamb
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Earlier this year I had a wake-up call where my health was concerned. Not a diagnosis or any sort of illness thankfully - it was one of those things you get yourself tested for that you think "I can't be deficient in that, surely...?"

In the same way that people get their cholesterol levels tested, I had my omega-3 index tested as part of the Seven Seas #TrueAge campaign. I wrote a "before" post back in June just after I'd started a trial to see if I could improve my omega-3 index. And oh BOY did it need improving.

Just to recap:

Omega-3, the much-discussed essential fatty acid found in oily fish, helps you to maintain good health as you get older. Its main benefits are to the heart, vision and the brain. The university professor who tested my blood sample explains the reasons for testing your omega-3 index:

"The omega-3 fatty acid content of red blood cells (the fatty acids are in the membrane of the cells) is considered to be a good indicator of how much omega-3s are being eaten. The omega-3s of greatest interest are EPA and DHA.

"A higher intake of EPA and DHA, and so a greater content in red blood cells, is linked with better health, including heart health. This is because the amount of EPA and DHA in red blood cells mirrors the amount in tissues like the heart. Researchers have defined the omega-3 index as the combined amounts of EPA plus DHA in red blood cells and suggest that this index be used as an indicator of heart health, just like blood cholesterol or blood pressure might be used."

So you can understand my desire to improve my index if it turned out to be a bit low. Which it did...
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Wednesday, 22 November 2017

13 Unmissable Reads, The Best of the Blogosphere (November 2017)

13 Unmissable Reads, The Best of the Blogosphere (November 2017)

In my Best of the Blogosphere this month I have two hilarious, tears-inducing beauty reviews, thoughts on being an older blogger, menopause underwear, gifts for teens and more!

(In case you've not seen these posts before my Unmissable Reads are a monthly round-up of things I've seen, watched and liked in the blogosphere that I'm sure you'll love too.)

It seems a particular, very successful YouTuber (rhymes with Floella...) has come under fire this month for producing (and I'm being polite here) a not-very-good-value-for-money advent calendar. There have been SO many reviews of said item on the internet, but don't miss the one that had me in stitches - sarcastic British humour at its absolute best.

I love how YouTubers are now reviewing other YouTubers' products... would you call that life imitating art? Something like that.

Anyway do have a read of these great links - you never know who or what you might discover that makes your day/week/month!

WHAT LINKS DID YOU LIKE - AND HAVE YOU FOUND ANY FABULOUS NEW BLOGS TO FOLLOW? COMMENT BELOW, OR TWEET ME @NOTLAMB!
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Monday, 20 November 2017

The Prince of Wales Check (Glen Plaid) Blazer Trend #iwillwearwhatilike

The Prince of Wales check blazer trend, AW17: A Glen plaid blazer jacket styled with wide leg jeans, black ankle boots and a stripe Mango shopper bag | Not Dressed As Lamb, fashion for over 40 women

Of all the new trends this AW17, this has to be the one I've been hankering after the most: the Prince of Wales (or Glen plaid) blazer.

It may well be all over Instagram at the moment, but you know what? It's not in real life. I haven't seen ONE person wearing one where I live.

Actually that's not entirely true - I did see a rather eccentrically-dressed lady in my town's high street wearing one a few weeks ago. She was probably in her 60s or 70s and the rest of her outfit was... interesting (let's be polite and call her style "bag lady chic"), so I don't think she was the type to be wearing her PoW check blazer in order to keep up with AW17 trends to be honest. But her blazer was spot-on - I almost wanted Keith to stop the car so I could run out and ask to buy it from her. I'd tried so many by that point and not found The One...  what can I say, I was desperate!

Luckily I did find The One after three failed attempts to order a check blazer online. Each one was either too long, too short, not the right colour and/or not the right fit. The one you see here, my friends, was the Goldilocks of Prince of Wales check blazers from Zara. It had just a little brown in it to make it a warm colour (as opposed to cold grey) - much more my preference.

WHILE I WAS ON THE ZARA WEBSITE I HAPPENED TO SEE OTHER THINGS (DAMN THESE SITES THAT HAVE BEAUTIFUL LARGE IMAGERY!) - I ALSO GOT THE WORLD'S SOFTEST SWEATSHIRT EVER EVER WHILE I WAS THERE. 

And of course while I was on the Zara website I happened to see other things (damn these sites that have beautiful large imagery!) - I also got The World's Softest Sweatshirt Ever Ever while I was there. It's not easy to see but this blush pink sweatshirt has grey fur cuffs.

That's GREY FUR CUFFS, people. =le sigh=

I was wearing them pulled out from my blazer sleeves but they'd slipped back inside for the first few photos: scroll down to see them peeking (pulled) out. It's a simple detail but also one that gives you great styling options (and think of all those three-quarter sleeve coats that leave your wrists cold... problem solved).
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Friday, 17 November 2017

Man Repellers Vs Repelling Menswear: Shouldn't Men Wear What They Like Too? #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Man repellers vs repelling menswear: Why do women dictate what men should wear but wear whatever they like?

Hands up if you're guilty of this: Wearing whatever you damn well like no matter what the man in your life thinks, but then insisting that you wouldn't be seen dead with him wearing that football shirt/those shoes/that shirt and tie combination?

I have to sheepishly put my hand up and say that I have thought those things before, and I'm not proud of it!

However, I AM proud to be part of the #iwillwearwhatilike revolution. I love the fact that my little corner of the internet encourages women to be free of style rules and to stop worrying about what others think about what they wear and thinking they should dress "age appropriately".

So what I thought this week was... Should #iwillwearwhatilike not apply to men as well? Should they not be allowed to go out wearing things that make the lady in their life cringe or think that it's an outfit that's just not working (or "not doing them any favours", for want of a better expression) even if THEY like what they're wearing?
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Wednesday, 15 November 2017

9 Minimalist Style Fashion Bloggers You Should Know

9 Minimalist Style Fashion Bloggers

Minimalist style is definitely not a way that anyone would describe MY personal style, but it doesn't mean I don't admire minimalist dressing in others.

In fact you might be surprised to learn that I'm actually a massive fan of sleek, clean style with neutral colours and a ton of black and white.

I just can't do it myself.

Seeing as I am so drawn to minimalist style I thought I'd bring you a selection of some of my favourite minimalist style fashion bloggers. These are the girls who live for black and white (and just occasionally a bit of grey or camel!) - they've got that Scandi-style art of dressing down to a tee (which, by the way, is always basic white or black).

There's no over-the-top accessorising. There are no garish patterns or (god forbid!) print clashes. No bold colour combinations or rainbow brights. There's just tailoring, all the neutrals, black ankle boots and lots of white sneakers.

It's a style I really yearn for - however I just can't get my head around wearing black and white when I feel the need to WEAR ALL THE COLOURS AND PATTERNS. But these girls do black and white with aplomb, and I can only imagine how easy picking outfits from their wardrobes must be. I wish I could clone myself or have an alter ego who dresses so sleekly and has the easiest time coordinating outfits. I'd love to know what's like to be the girl who's not forever wondering where her candy pink belt is because it would go perfectly with the lilac boots and burgundy trousers.

So this style may not be something I'll ever embrace myself, but it doesn't mean I can't take elements and incorporate it into my style every now and then.
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Monday, 13 November 2017

How to Style a Baker Boy Hat, Over 40 Style #iwillwearwhatilike

Autumn winter fall style - casual fall dressing - Mustard M&S cable knit oversized roll neck sweater \ white cropped wide leg jeans \ tan boots \ camel baker boy hat \ pink suede backpack | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style

I've finally succumbed and bought myself a baker boy hat for winter. It took me ages to choose one, and even longer to decide whether or not to keep it...!

The baker boy hat is the trend that I accidentally left off my 3 must-have autumn/winter pieces post last month (velvet, Prince of Wales check blazers and white boots all appeared) but I forgot baker boy hats for some reason. I couldn't work out whether I really, really liked - or really disliked - this corduroy baker boy hat from Asos. The other choices were mostly black or dark colours, and you know me and my dislike of black... So shades of brown and camel it was!

Trust me to choose the priciest one on the Asos website. Not only that but the day I first wore it we went for a long walk along the seafront and then on for a pub lunch with friends: I was told I looked like a particular Muppet and do you know what, she was absolutely right!

The name of the Muppet shall be revealed, meantime...
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Friday, 10 November 2017

Unicorns Are Dangerous: Eco-Unfriendly Glitter is Killing Our Oceans #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Unicorns are evil: Why eco-unfriendly glitter is killing our oceans

Unicorns are dangerous.

Now I know that they may be the "animal" of the decade, and that they're cute and "so fluffy I'm gonna die!", but I was thinking about unicorns as I put my recycling out this morning (Friday is recycling collection day).

Bear with me on this.

I don't know what it's like in your area, and depending on where you live I don't know if you get a recycling collection truck come round - but we do. So every other Friday morning everyone puts out their rubbish and recycling. And this is what breaks my heart and makes me mad in equal measures:

The amount of rubbish that's left out in my street equals about five times the amount of recycling that's left out. Our household's is the other way round... our rubbish bag is very small and we recycle everything that can possibly be recycled.
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Thursday, 9 November 2017

The Best AW17 Brogues, Oxfords and Lace-Ups to Buy Online

The Best AW17 Brogues, Oxfords and Lace-Ups to Buy Online

After featuring a pair of orange and beige two-tone lace-ups from my vast brogues collection recently, I mentioned that I might dedicate a whole post to the best styles out there this season... Here is that post!

There are lots of styles of brogues available for AW17 - and I mean a LOT. They've been around forever for men (do they really ever go out of style for them?) and to be honest they never really go out of style for women. The details may change a little, but the classic brogue never dates.

What can date them is the basic shape, the heel and the sole. What's more important, however, is to go for a style that you like, that suits your personal style and that flatters you (i.e. your ankles and calves). For example, I personally like a chunkier sole because I don't have super slim ankles - the very thin soles can exaggerate chunkier legs.

I've been wearing them for what seems like forever (maybe because I have about 14 pairs?)

My favourite pair is the unusual coral-coloured classic brogues and my comfiest pair is the silver and white brogues with the foam sole. The red patent brogues never fail to brighten up an outfit.
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Monday, 6 November 2017

Mixing Metallics and Styling a Bardot-Style Christmas Party Dress #iwillwearwhatilike

Christmas party dress: Grey off the shoulder ruffled midi dress with silver polka dots | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style
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What screams "Christmas party" more than metallics? Gold, silver and all things shiny are fabulous all year round, but none more so than during the festive season.

I'll always love a pretty dress at Christmas time, whether it's for a full-on party, a gathering with friends or the big day itself. And as I'm also a fan of midi dresses, this grey ruffled dress with silver polka dots had me swooning the second I saw it - it ticks so many trend boxes! The ruffles, the off-the-shoulder Bardot-style top and the spots come together to make a dress that may not be super bright or over the top colourful, but I fell in love with its elegance and feminine frills.

I chose this dress as part of my collaboration with JD Williams - you may have seen in September that I'm part of their exciting Colour Council (with five other influencers) that the brand launched to coincide with their total rebranding the same month? They are now not just a fashion brand but they're "JD Williams - The Lifestore". I have to give them full marks for a truly excellent rebranding campaign: the message, the imagery, the models used and even the colourful new logo are all well worth checking out.
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Friday, 3 November 2017

Shortlisted For Most Addictive Blog (May I Have Your Vote?) #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Thirty Plus Awards 2017 - please vote for Not Dressed As Lamb in the "Most Addictive Blog" category

This week I'm sharing the kindness and generosity of my readers - it seems I was nominated anonymously for an award, and how wonderful is this: I made the shortlist!

Last year I was a judge at the Thirty Plus Awards which was a real honour and loads of fun - and this year it seems someone has put my name forward in the "Most Addictive Blog" category.

If this was you - please accept my humblest thanks from the bottom of my heart. It means SO much that someone took the time to nominate me.

(And if it WAS you please let me know - I still don't know who it was...!)

Anyway to get straight to the point - it wouldn't be right not to try and do as well as I can seeing as someone went to the trouble of nominating me (in fact it would seem quite ungrateful), so if you too think my blog is addictive (or even if you think it's just quite good!) then I really WOULD be very grateful if you could take a few seconds to vote for me please...
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Thursday, 2 November 2017

My Skincare Routine for Looking After My Skin in My 40s

Anti-ageing skincare tips for looking after your skin in your 40s | Not Dressed As Lamb
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Not that it's a "bad" thing at all (in fact it's great!), but at 45 I am well and truly in midlife. And it's amazing how much skincare is as important to you in your 40s as it was in your teens... if not more so.

I often receive compliments about how old I look (or don't look?) which is very flattering, but it doesn't come easy, that's for sure. Getting great skin is a battle I've been fighting for years now - and still battling.

It's inevitable that we'll all get lines and wrinkles as we age, and I'm perfectly okay with that, but looking my best is very important to me and I'm very aware of all the things that affect our skin health. I thought I'd share with you my skincare routine for looking after my skin in my 40s (and how I want to go on looking after it)!
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Wednesday, 1 November 2017

5 Ways to Increase Blog Traffic You Didn't Know You Were Squandering

Blogging Tips | 5 Ways to Increase Blog Traffic That You Didn't Know You Were Squandering

About 18 months ago I made the discovery that I was seriously squandering blog traffic in a way I didn't even know about.

Yet now it's one of the biggest - and most important - ways I generate traffic to my blog.

This realisation came about because a fellow blogger asked me how I'd set up and organised one of the platforms provided for readers to follow us.

Two words - I hadn't. I was basically squandering all the potential blog traffic from this platform.

What was it? Email subscriptions.

How much thought have you ever given to those who subscribe to your posts by email? Have you ever thought about exactly what they receive in their Inbox, the format in which they receive notifications that you've posted on your blog?
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Monday, 30 October 2017

How to Dress Warm and Cosy in Autumn Without a Coat #iwillwearwhatilike

Cozy, comfy autumn fall outfit for walking the dog \ long orange-red roll neck sweater \ skinny jeans \ brown ankle boots \ flat cap | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style

I think I've found the secret to dressing in cold weather without several layers of thermals, a scarf and coat...

It's called This Roll Neck Sweater from Marks & Spencer. And OMG is it warm and cosy... I knew it would be warm because of the high neck that doesn't flop down: it completely negates the need for a scarf. I bought it on a whim last weekend because I was helping my mum shop for new sweaters online and I suggested this one to her, but she doesn't like roll necks. I liked it so much I added it to the basket anyway (as well as the mustard yellow one, oops) and of COURSE it turned out to be perfect [for me].
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Friday, 27 October 2017

How the Movies Have Influenced My Wardrobe #SaturdayShareLinkUp

How the Movies Have Influenced My Wardrobe (The Breakfast Club and Pretty in Pink) | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style

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Hands up - who's ever gone out and bought an outfit (or tried to recreate a look) based on something they've seen at the cinema? I may not have done it for a while, but "back in the day" (otherwise known as the 80s) I was all over EVERY look going in the Brat Pack movies.

In fact, not just the Brat Pack movies (that'd be The Breakfast Club, St. Elmo's Fire, Pretty in Pink, etc.) but also 80s classics like Desperately Seeking Susan, Working Girl and Dirty Dancing. As a teenager I was constantly trying to emulate what Molly Ringwald, Demi Moore and Ally Sheedy wore.

(At this point of the post I'd just like to say that I make NO apologies for wallowing in nostalgia... Nostalgia is a privilege denied to the young! 😉)

For this week's Saturday Share I was asked by Cineworld to share my favourite cinema moments with you for their #CineworldMoments campaign... this is SO easy! I could talk/write all day about my memorable cinema moments. Keith and I are currently trying desperately to find an evening (or Sunday morning) to go and see Bladerunner 2049 and Thor: Ragnarok. We've always been regular cinema-goers - I can still clearly remember that the first film we went to see together was Moulin Rouge (funny how you remember these details) in the early days of us seeing each other.

The good news for our movie-loving selves is that tickets for Star Wars: The Last Jedi are ALREADY booked for mid-December. That's what happens when you're married to a man who was 7 years old when Episode IV came out in 1977: he always makes sure he's among the first to see anything Star Wars-related.

But what about cinema moments from my early years?

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The most impactful movies

The movies that had the most impact on me in the 80s were two absolute classic teen movies, both by the late great John Hughes: The Breakfast Club and Pretty in Pink. I cannot begin to tell you how much I loved (and still love) those two movies.

Both starred Molly Ringwald - it's not like I'd cite her as being a major influence on my 13 or 14-year-old self, but it just so happened she starred in both of them.

I saw The Breakfast Club at the cinema in 1985 and Pretty in Pink a year later. Both played a major sartorial influence on me because I was already thinking about my own personal style a lot by that time. But first - a few cinema memories that I'm sure many of you of a certain age can identify with...

1980s cinema memories

Ghostbusters, 1984

(Age 12): I queued around the block (literally) in 1984 for Ghostbusters with my friend Julie in the freezing cold only to have the tickets sell out a couple of people ahead of us. (I can still feel the disappointment even now.) We tried again the next day and this time we got in after my parents went and bought us a couple of hot chocolates to drink while we were queuing. Ah, the days before booking tickets online...

The Breakfast Club, 1985

(Age 13, and yes, we were underage...): Wanting to see both The Breakfast Club and Brewster's Millions (don't ask) on the same day, I remember my BFF Jo and I running out of one film then racing down the road to the other cinema to catch the start of the next one. I can't remember which we saw first, but I know which made the most - and the most lasting - impact on me. (Clue: It wasn't Brewster's Millions.)



Top Gun, 1986

(Age 14): This was THE film that all the girls wanted to see on the last day of term after school. As we were leaving, I can remember the deputy head asking us what we were doing with our half day - we told her we were off to see Top Gun. I can remember her rolling her eyes and muttering something about whether any girls were NOT off to see it. Seems the whole of my school were off to the cinema that afternoon to watch some fast planes and a now-legendary volleyball scene for the first time.

Pretty in Pink, 1986

(Age 14): I was well-versed in the Brat Pack by this point (Rob Lowe dominated most of my waking thoughts, and it's weird to think he's still got it 30 years later). Another John Hughes movie at the cinema? Of course I was going to see it. What I wasn't prepared for was seeing a vintage-clad Molly Ringwald, dressed NOTHING like the other pastel-covered, mid-80s preppy students.


I can remember coming out of the cinema and thinking that this was EXACTLY how I wanted to dress. Up to that point I thought I'd wanted to dress like she did in The Breakfast Club (where the costume designer put her in head-to-toe Ralph Lauren), but after Pretty in Pink? I wanted to wear granny cardigans, embellish everything, make my own clothes, go to vintage stores and charity shops.

What's utterly amazing is that her outfits Have. Not. Dated.

TO BE FAIR, I WOULD STILL HAPPILY WEAR ALL HER OUTFITS, EVEN NOW. IT PROVES JUST HOW MUCH OF AN IMPORTANT PART GOOD COSTUME IS TO A MOVIE.

Pretty in Pink style

If you're not familiar with her style in that movie (I'll only accept you being born in the 80s or later as an excuse), then check out this Pretty in Pink style dissection - it shows you just about every outfit she wore. To be fair, I would still HAPPILY wear all her outfits*, even now. It proves just how much of an important part good costume is to a movie.

So yes, clothes and fashion are my thing, and fashion in movies is up there where Things That Make Me Wallow Happily in Nostalgia are concerned.

I know I'm not alone in loving clothes in movies - but what are some of YOUR favourite memories of going to the cinema? Who remembers when people used to smoke in the cinema?! Ever had a first date at the movies that led to something (or someone) quite serious?

DO SHARE YOUR CINEMA STORIES - TELL ME IN THE COMMENTS OR TWEET ME @NOTLAMB!

*In case you're wondering - the prom dress is the exception. Yes, I hated it too and remember being HORRIFIED when she walked on screen in it. True fans will know what I mean...

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Disclosure: This post was sponsored by Cineworld (click here for my full disclosure)It also contains affiliate links which means if you click through and buy I may receive a small commission. All content is original, however, and opinions are my own and 100% honest.
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Wednesday, 25 October 2017

15 Unmissable Reads, The Best of the Blogosphere (October 2017)

Not Dressed As Lamb's The Best of the Blogosphere (October 2017)

In my Best of the Blogosphere this month I have midsize gals in sequinned dresses, a stunning Halloween makeup, positive thoughts on turning 50, tax deductible manicures - and more!

(In case you've not seen these posts before my Unmissable Reads are a monthly round-up of things I've seen, watched and liked in the blogosphere that I'm sure you'll love too.)

SO much great stuff to read (yet again) this month. Everyone is just starting to break out the sequins and party wear and happy festive vibes... summer may be over but that doesn't mean we can't embrace the new season!

Do have a read of these great links - you never know who or what you might discover that makes your day/week/month!
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Monday, 23 October 2017

The Ultimate 70s-Style Patterned Midi Dress #iwillwearwhatilike

Elegant 70s style patterned midi dress in autumnal colours - bell sleeves, tie waist (Hobbs AW17) | Not Dressed As Lamb, over 40 style

I'm so glad I've finally got round to showcasing this patterned midi dress on the blog at last - have you EVER seen such a wondrous mix of sludgy 70s-style colours and print?

My obsession with all things 70s inspired hasn't waned in the slightest it seems. The other week I did 70s Ralph Lauren country style with a floral maxi, and today it's a mind-bending swirly print of epic Abigail's Party proportions.

Hobbs have knocked it out the park yet again with another stunning AW17 dress - I didn't think I could love a dress more than the yellow velvet dress I featured last month: please don't make me choose between the two...!

I wore this dress to the eRetail Europe conference in Amsterdam a couple of weeks ago where I gave a presentation (I wrote a blog post about my fears before the conference and a follow up post explaining how it all went) - if you follow me on Instagram you may have seen my InstaStories in the hotel room before I left, showing off this beauty.

It was everything I wanted in an outfit where I was the only "influencer" - meaning, everyone else was there representing their business or their employer (a question I was asked all day - delegate: "Who do you work for?" Me: I work for myself...!" 💪). And being a fashion blogger you have a certain reputation to uphold. So as I knew back in May I was going to this conference I'd been thinking for a while about what to wear.
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Friday, 20 October 2017

Never Underestimate How Much You're Worth #SaturdayShareLinkUp

Never underestimate how much you're worth: How to work out how much you should be charging for sponsored blog posts and in other areas of life.

A couple of weeks ago I found myself in a unique position: Someone who wanted to work with me asked me to justify my worth.

This was the first time this had ever happened to me - I'd never been asked to justify the fees that I charge. And the thing is, I was perfectly confident about doing so. Had I been asked three or four years ago, I wouldn't have known what on earth to say or how to respond.

The confidence I have in my ability to produce great content - and to do it professionally - is something that every now and then surprises me (in a really good way).

I've learnt through bitter experience that for a long time I totally underestimated my worth. Yet this doesn't apply to just my blogging career, but to many of the jobs I had that led up to me going full time as a professional blogger.

And it's something that I think too many of us do. It's even worse when we consider than women are still being paid less than men for doing the same jobs in many industries.

Being asked to justify my worth

So what happened?

I was contacted by a PR person who wanted me to get on board with a particular campaign she was running for a brand. (It doesn't matter what the campaign or the brand were, it's not relevant.) She outlined the project and asked for fees, which I gave her.

I listed the fees that I'm currently being paid by other brands for equivalent work, so I knew for a fact that those fees were what I'm worth (to a brand).

Here's the rub: She replied asking me to explain why I'm charging so much more than my contemporaries. I explained things that she should really have known already (if she'd done her research) about my stats, successes with other campaigns, my UK Blog Awards win, etc.

I was curtly told "I think you've misunderstood my request, I understand how and why you might decide on pricing. I need to demonstrate to the client why you'd be worth the additional spend, what do you bring to a campaign that no one else can?"

My answer?

(I'm so glad I thought of saying this, because it's true...)

I said perhaps it's not that I'm overcharging, maybe it's that the other influencers are not charging enough. This is something that all too often is not the first thing that PRs think of. Blogging is a very, very new profession, after all, and bloggers are generally in the dark about what to charge companies (usually not enough).

I very politely declined to go any further with the campaign and stopped short of telling her what I thought of her asking me to do her job for her (it's HER job to pitch me to the client and justify why I'm worth what I charge... She found and approached me, after all).

How I calculate what fees to charge

I'm lucky compared to a lot of bloggers: I've had an agent who helped me see what I was worth by quoting on my behalf. It's a lot easier to have the confidence in yourself when someone else is doing the negotiating.

What do I charge? I charge what brands are willing to pay me.

In IFB's recent article 5 reasons to walk away from a blog sponsorship, they explained it this way:

"If your rate is X, and you've never sold a service for that price, then maybe your rates are too high. Experiment to find a rate you are comfortable with that brands feel comfortable investing in as well. If your rate is X, and you are selling it more than you have time to do a great job on it, then your rate is too low, and you should raise it. There are no “set” rates for anything."

In other words, the way to know whether what you charge for your services - and this applies to ANYONE who charges fees for a service or products - is by putting up your prices. If everyone happily pays you those fees, then you're still charging too little. If no one pays you those fees, you're charging too much.

WHAT YOU WANT ARE GOLDILOCKS RATES: RATES THAT SOME PEOPLE CAN AFFORD AND HAPPILY PAY BUT THAT ARE TOO HIGH FOR OTHERS. 

Goldilocks rates

What you want are Goldilocks rates: Rates that some people can afford and happily pay but that are too high for others. This is the way you stay in high demand - those that can't afford you but are desperate to work with you or hire you for your services will look for some way to be able to pay you what you're worth.

I strongly believe that too many of us are afraid of charging what we're worth. I did, many times: when I look back on what I was charging brands in the early days I could kick myself for charging too little - I know because they accepted my rates far too readily. I was afraid of putting them off, afraid of them thinking I was too big for my boots.

I know better now and have no qualms about quoting my fees and knowing they may (or may not!) be able to afford me.

Find out your worth

So whatever you do in life - whether you are self-employed, an employee, a freelancer, someone who bakes cakes for friends and family or walk dogs now and then for some extra cash - make sure you don't underestimate your worth. If you find that people are all too happy to pay you what you charge them, put your prices up at the end of the year. Those that can't afford you won't be able to pay. But you'll be making more money by having put up your prices, but your workload is less.

(Obviously I'm talking from a purely business point of view... I'm not suggesting you go ripping off old ladies whose dogs you walk to help them out!)

If you're an employee ask yourself if you're being paid what you're truly worth. Have you found out if there is equal pay amongst the male and female colleagues in your company? This is a hot topic right now, so be brave and just ASK.

If you're a blogger, ask others what they charge. If they won't help you, find someone who will.

If you're told you're too expensive...

I think it surprises a lot of people that there ARE bloggers out there who turn down paid projects. Yes, it can be hard to keep saying no to a brand that offers you 25% of what you quoted or what you'd originally agreed upon (as has happened to me - and more than once or twice) if you really need the money. I regularly say no to paid projects because they either don't fit my brand or they can't afford me.

But, like brands who don't "do" sales or give discount codes, you could be harming your brand or your long-term earning power if you constantly accept less than what you're worth. (Don't forget, if just one brand is willing to pay you what you've quoted, that's your worth.)

IT'S NOT ABOUT RACING TO THE BOTTOM ALONG WITH EVERYONE ELSE. IT'S ABOUT KNOWING YOUR VALUE. 
- @allinbillgreen

Can you imagine the harm discount codes would do to a brand like Chanel? You never see big sale signs in designer stores because it would do their brand more harm than good to suddenly drop their prices. Consumers would no longer see them as a luxury brand - they'd become a discount brand.

Going back to the Goldilocks rates... think how many women save up for a Chanel handbag. I said "those that can't afford you but are desperate to work with you or hire you for your services will look for some way to be able to pay you what you're worth". Chanel handbags ARE worth it to some women. So they (hypothetically) beg, borrow and steal to be able to afford to buy one.

Chanel don't drop their prices - those who want a Chanel handbag find a way to afford one.

As this excellent article about how to reply if a customer says your product or service is too expensive explains: "It's not about racing to the bottom along with everyone else. It's about knowing your value, understanding what you're really selling, and being able to effectively communicate that value in a way that puts your cost into perspective."

I gladly gave up that campaign offered to me by that jobsworth PR even though she may have accepted my fees in the end. But if she couldn't already see that I was worth what I was charging, then that wasn't the campaign for me.

If you think about it, that thought process can be applied to an awful lot more in life than just monetary worth. Know your worth in every aspect of your lives, ladies. You deserve every bit of it.

DO YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH - OR ARE YOU STILL FIGURING IT OUT? DO PLEASE SHARE WITH EVERYONE IN THE COMMENTS... WE NEED TO HEAR EACH OTHER'S STORIES :)

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